DEAR AMY: I not too long ago hosted an previous faculty buddy for lunch at my home, alongside together with her husband and younger daughter, “Lillie.”
I’ve bought a medium-sized canine that will get nervous round new individuals, so for security’s sake I locked the canine in her kennel and saved her in a again room.
My buddy requested a number of occasions if she might take her daughter to the again to “see the pet,” however I stated no as a result of the canine would keep calmer if she was left alone.
Properly, whereas I used to be busy cooking lunch, my buddy apparently snuck Lillie to the again room to see the canine.
Subsequent factor I do know, Lillie is screaming/crying, and my buddy is yelling at me.
Apparently the canine nipped at Lillie and scared her (there was no bodily contact). Now, my buddy is indignant with me for “permitting” my canine to scare her baby. She is threatening to report me to animal management.
I believe she’s insane.
My canine was locked away in her kennel. I acknowledged very clearly to go away the canine alone, and he or she ignored me.
My buddy says she desires an apology and for me to do away with the canine, or she received’t be visiting anymore. Who is true right here?
DEAR DOGGONE: From this level ahead, it could be wisest so that you can confer with this individual not as a buddy, however a “former buddy.”
Taking your narrative at face worth, she is an irresponsible guardian who knowingly and intentionally ignored clearly acknowledged warnings and put her baby in hurt’s approach.
I received’t counsel that you simply counter her risk with certainly one of your individual (to report her to CPS for baby endangerment), however the temptation is unquestionably there.
You don’t owe her an apology. Nor do I believe it’s best to proceed to speak together with her about this.
I do suppose it’s best to maintain her to her promise to not go to you anymore.
DEAR AMY: My ex-fiance and I have been collectively for 5 years, and have been separated for over three years. We’ve a baby.
We’ve shared custody of our baby, and though my ex could be very rich, I’ve by no means requested for any baby assist or compensation as a result of I simply wished us to concentrate on co-parenting our baby, with out the mess.
My mom knowledgeable me that my ex was engaged, after she noticed it on social media. He by no means informed me. We had an important relationship till he began seeing this lady. In accordance with him, she could be very jealous of me.
I see my ex at the very least as soon as every week. Though I had a unfavorable opinion after I came upon about their relationship, I bought over it shortly and informed my ex that if she makes him completely happy, then I want him the perfect.
They bought married shortly after being engaged and he nonetheless hasn’t stated something to me.
Now our relationship has a clumsy vibe. I don’t need to make him really feel uncomfortable, and I’ve been ready to see if he would ultimately inform me about his marriage. I’ve been very good to his spouse. I’m undecided why he’s hiding all of those essential occasions from me.
Ought to I say one thing, simply to get it out of the best way so it doesn’t pressure our relationship?
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DEAR GLASS: You appear to focus totally in your ex’s life — and his emotions — when you have to be focusing by yourself, and your baby’s.
You each appear cowardly. He’s too hen to inform you he’s gotten married. And also you don’t appear to have advocated on your baby. Do you have got a authorized custody settlement?
Even when you can readily afford elevating your baby, you could possibly advocate for assist with insurance coverage, extracurricular actions and faculty down the highway. Serving to to assist a baby financially is a vital side of “co-parenting.”
Your baby now has a stepmother. This may very well be a game-changer on many fronts — for all of you.
You need to obtain authorized counsel as quickly as potential.
Discover the phrases. Say to your ex, “So, I perceive that you simply and Margo bought married. Are you able to clarify why you determined to not inform me this?”
DEAR AMY: Cute recommendation to “Frozen,” to supply a younger baby an ice pack for just a little boo-boo. However — hiya — ice packs can really “burn” younger pores and skin.
I counsel you rethink your recommendation.
DEAR DISAPPOINTED: Dad and mom should make certain their treatment doesn’t trigger different issues. I believe most can handle to make their ice packs secure.
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